We’ve all been there. One day your man is loyal, loving and dependent on your every word.
Then, out of nowhere, every time you get close, he appears far away.
He stopped answering messages and calling back.
He didn’t hold your hand, he stroked your hair and caressed you like he used to.
Clingy girlfriend Worse, you think he’s starting to show interest in other women.
“What did I do wrong?”
“What has changed?”
“Why does he do this?”
The feeling of your man leaving and losing interest is one of the most painful things you will ever experience.
It’s like watching your breakup in painful slow motion.
Why men lose interest is one of the biggest mysteries we women face.
It’s like trying to find buried treasure without a map while blindfolded!
As a dating coach who has worked with women in these types of situations for years, I know how difficult it can be. You might be confused, panicked, and not sure what to do to make him want you again.
To understand why you suddenly lost your heart, it is first necessary to understand the differences in our biological makeup.
Here I explain.
The Women’s Brain vs The Men’s Brain
The reason men leave is so confusing to our logically female brains because when we lose interest in a man, we can explain it away.
Perhaps he is too clingy, unmotivated and inattentive.
Whatever the reason, we can express it easily.
But when it comes to men, if only it were so logical!
They had a really hard time (which is generous!)
This is where it gets really ridiculous and drives us crazy…
From thinking you are “the one” to “bye bye!” almost night
Men can go on great dates with women, text each other every day thinking she might even be “the one”… too bad!
Man leaves his girlfriend so that he disappears and completely loses interest in her.
Her sudden and mysterious disappearance or loss of interest will completely confuse you.
There is no answer.
Question every little thing you say and do.
Our intuition tells us to explore. Ask, “What’s the matter, honey?”
We tend to make ourselves more available.
But all this made him hold back even more.
Why? Why? Why? You ask yourself over and over again. There is no closer answer. Or earn it back.
Well, you’ll know exactly why he did it. and what to do when he does.
Common reasons why men pull away
Almost all men pull away at some point or another when they are dating or in a relationship with a woman.
When you meet for the first time, weeks, months or even years later, it can happen.
When it inevitably happens, it creates a meaningful moment.
His reaction could be the difference between him disappearing forever or returning to the loving, loyal, close person he once was.
The key to responding to his withdrawal and loss of interest to regain his attention is to understand exactly why he’s doing this.
Read and I explain.
Reason 1: Your emotions are showing
When you first start dating a guy, you’re nice, cool, and in control before you get into the relationship.
Guys love this phase. They find this detached confidence extremely attractive. You are easy going and super fun to be around.
But over time, women became more emotional. Your feelings begin to manifest.
On the other hand, guys probably haven’t started to think twice yet.
New Relationship Suddenly, the relationship goes from simply lighthearted to serious.
Women start looking to the future, imagining the two of them together and worrying about losing the man of their dreams.
Guys can feel this happening very quickly.
When they do, they don’t know how to respond, so they walk away.
So learn how to do this from the beginning. Are your emotions played out in bright lights like a Broadway musical?
Obviously, I’m not talking about being an emotionless robot here. But it’s about controlling your emotions.
Reason #2: You’re Insecure
Listen, I’m not trying to insult you here, but if you’re the type to constantly nag your boyfriend about other women, ask who he texts every few seconds, or complain about his body image, then oh no. Your man has lost interest in you.
Asking your man about his girlfriend and questioning his every move will only make you seem jealous and insecure.
This behavior can quickly get you labeled a “crazy type”.
Of course, everyone has insecurities. Even the most beautiful woman.
But these are personal, inner feelings and issues that you have to deal with.
Projecting them onto your face will only make them worse. And be quick and smart against it!
Reason 3: You look desperate
If your man is distant, it could be because of your emotional imbalance.
Basically, if you’re not happy with yourself, your man can easily be the only source of happiness you’re going to stifle.
In a relationship, it’s crucial that the two of you lead separate lives. Your own hobbies, interests, passions and friends.
If you don’t, your man will quickly become the center of your universe. Everything you do will revolve around him, look desperate and scare the poor guy.
Put yourself in his shoes.
Do you want to be with someone who craves your love and attention?
Certainly! Talk about MAJOR OFF!
So make sure you keep your life busy, exciting and independent.
Texting less often than you’d like to see because it expands your text to fill in the gaps (basic principle of text chemistry).
That independence and confidence will make him more attracted to you.
Reason #4: You gave up too soon
When it comes to sex, women and men are complete opposites.
Women can sleep with men and feel more emotionally connected and attracted.
On the other hand, men see sleeping with women as a challenge. Once the chase is over, it’s easy to lose interest and move on.
So when it comes to building strong bonds and serious relationships, giving up on having sex with a man too soon can be one of the biggest mistakes you can make.
If you give up too soon and he doesn’t have to work on it, he’s likely to reduce you to just another meaningless “thing”.
I don’t want to be cautious.
But remember, things that start fast end fast!
Reason #5: You tried to force love
When you start dating a guy, no matter how nice and stable he seems, it’s important to keep your heart out of the situation until you’re in a serious, committed relationship.
Fang Qi promises You see, men live in the present, while women are constantly looking to the future.
This means that even though you might be planning your life together in your head, a guy could be crazy about you one week and then change his mind the next.
He is likely to notice when you are too early in your relationship. Even if you don’t say it out loud.
When you do this, he will start to get stressed and act like things are getting too serious too fast. You want more than him.
Yep, you guessed it. He will run for miles!
So be patient. Don’t try to force his emotions.
Love has its own rhythm. When that happens, the wait is always worth it! Understanding the process is the first step to attracting men.
The reason he’s pulling away…
So now you know the top reasons why men leave.
What to do next time, the horrible feeling of losing interest in your man inevitably comes.
From my years as a relationship coach, I can honestly say that the five reasons you’ve learned today make up nearly every “he loses interest and leaves” cases I see.